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Dear Doctor Love,
Since high school I have been in love with the guy who was my first true love. Two years after we graduated we moved in together. It was a disaster. We had always been jealous of each other and now it got worse. I worked a split shift and he was suspicious when he worked all day and I was home for five hours. I was jealous of him when I was at work at night and he was home for five hours. It was hard on both of us but we finally split up. I found a great guy who is not jealous and treats me good. Six months later I still miss my ex. I think of him all the time and I would go back with him in a heartbeat if I thought we stood a chance. What is wrong with me?
/s/ Never Learns
Dear Never,
There is nothing wrong with you that time will not take care of. You might never forget him completely but you cannot let that cripple you for life. Work at forgetting him and he will start to fade in your memory. Eventually, you will only think of him when you want to.
Dear Doctor Love,
I have been married for eight years and we have two wonderful children. The only place we don’t get along concerns his mother. She comes over to visit with me and all she ever talks about is my husband’s three sisters. They are doing this and that and they bought a new boat or a new golf cart or something. To hear her talk you would think that these three women are the greatest things that ever lived and their children can probably walk on water. She never mentions us and our two daughters. I am getting really tired of this. Should I ask my husband to speak to her about it? What should I do?
/s/ M.G.
Dear M.G.,
Probably the best thing to do is nothing. The woman’s total focus seems to be on her family and it may be boring to you but there is nothing wrong with it. She obviously thinks she has nothing more important to discuss. It’s true that she doesn’t talk about you and your family while she is with you. Why should she? You are already there. However for all you know her daughters are sick of listening to her brag about you and your family and all of the wonderful things you are doing.
