Doctor Love: childhood sweethearts
Sunday, November 24th, 2013
Dear Doctor Love,
I dated one girl for eight years. We started out as childhood sweethearts when I was fifteen and she was fourteen. We remained committed to each other even after high school and while we were at different universities we got engaged. When I was a senior I ended the relationship. I did it in the stupidest way possible and for the most ignorant of all reasons. She went to a party one weekend while I was making a surprise visit to her school. When I arrived and discovered that she was not there I was enraged with jealousy. I turned around and drove straight back home and that week I did not call her as I usually did.
She tried to contact me every day. I did not answer the phone and when my roommate answered I told him to tell her that I was not home. Finally, he got tired of this and when the phone rang he answered and it was her. He handed the phone over and just said the call was for me. Instead of giving her a chance to explain anything I cut her off by telling her that I was talking to her on the phone for the last time. I said I never wanted to hear her voice again.
Of course, when I hung up the phone I was filled with remorse but I was too proud to call her back and apologize. Instead I waited for her to call me again. She never did. A month later I graduated and took a job hundreds of miles away. When I came back two years later, I found out she was married and had a child.
Yesterday, eight years later, I ran across her page on Facebook. She is still married and now has another child. I still feel guilty about the way I treated her. Do you think I should contact her by Facebook and give her my apologies while I have the chance?
/s/ Dumb As A Rock
Of course, not! You don’t want to apologize for her sake. Instead, it is for your own sake. You are the one feeling guilty here, not her. She has a new life and chances are good that she never even thinks of you.
Let sleeping dogs lie. You stay out of her life and leave her alone. She has already made a life for herself without you. Give her the courtesy of doing the same for yourself.
Please help support Local Journalism in Belize
For the first time in the history of the island's community newspaper, The San Pedro Sun is appealing to their thousands of readers to help support the paper during the COVID-19 pandemic. Since 1991 we have tirelessly provided vital local and national news. Now, more than ever, our community depends on us for trustworthy reporting, but our hard work comes with a cost. We need your support to keep delivering the news you rely on each and every day. Every reader contribution, however big or small, is so valuable. Please support us by making a contribution.Click to Donate