Doctor Love: Honesty and Paranormal Activity
Sunday, February 9th, 2014
Dear Doctor Love,
I am a believer in the paranormal and I am searching for others who share my beliefs. How can I go about finding others here who are interested in this subject? I would like to get a group together to discuss paranormal experiences.
Being unfamiliar with the term paranormal, the Doctor looked it up and found the following definition: Paranormal – Beyond the range of normal experience or scientific explanation.
By this definition the Doctor has had a number of frightening paranormal experiences. If you want one, try sitting at the bar at one of the discos at three a.m. on the weekend. Another great place for a paranormal experience is any bar where they are having karaoke. At either place you are guaranteed that something will happen beyond normal experience or scientific explanation.
Last week, out of the blue, he asked me if sex was better with him or with my ex-boyfriend. I managed to get the subject changed by asking him why in the world he would ask me a question like that when I never would think of asking him the same thing about his ex. According to him, he just worries sometimes that perhaps I think of my ex. I turned it around by asking if he was asking just because he is thinking of his ex. This got us away from the subject.
The truth is that my ex was much better at sex than he is but how could I possibly tell him that? How far should honesty go?
Never confuse honesty with stupidity. The honest answer to his question is “Yes.” It is also the stupid answer because it will lead to nothing but trouble. As soon as he asks a leading question like this, you know he is not looking for an honest answer. He might be looking for re-assurance or something to pick a fight over, but if he thought he was better than the ex he would never have asked the question.
If he persists, try to avoid answering if possible. If it comes right down to it, tell him that you do not make comparisons between the men who have been in your life. You might also point out to him that a relationship based solely on sex is not a good relationship. This has the advantage of being hard to argue with.
If all else fails; lie or get rid of him. The total truth has no place here.
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