Dear Dr. Love,
How do I tell my friend that I think she would be happier if she got divorced? To be clear, I don’t believe she is going through domestic violence; she is just very unhappy. Things have been bad with her husband for a while now. They keep trying to work things out, but every few months, a new issue arises. /s/ Please Help
Dear Please Help,
Watching a friend struggle in an unhappy relationship pulls at the heart. Yet, the path she walks is ultimately hers to choose. Offering advice, especially about something as serious as marriage, requires great sensitivity. Your role is not to show her a way out but to help her see clearly whatever path she’s on. Listen openly, encourage her to reflect, and gently ask her questions that help her uncover her own truth. Instead of suggesting divorce, support her journey of self-discovery. If, in her heart, separation is the way forward, let that decision come from her own wisdom, not your words. Your friendship can be the light she needs, but only she can decide which door to walk through. /s/ Dr. Love
Dear Doctor Love,
Are workplace relationships allowed in Belize? I come from a background in corporate America where romantic interests at work are frowned upon and can even lead to dismissal. I have been living in Belize for four years now, and I recently developed a strong attraction to a friend who has been supportive since my move. We work for the same company, so I’m hesitant to make a move. I believe he might be interested in me as well. /s/ This could be love
Dear This could be love,
Ah, the heart has found a friend within reach—but within the workplace, things become delicate. In Belize, as elsewhere, company culture often dictates whether workplace relationships are acceptable, and policies can vary widely. Consider speaking to your HR department or reviewing the company handbook discreetly, as it may offer insights without causing any ripples. If there are no strict rules against it, let patience guide you. See where mutual interest truly lies, and take small steps, keeping respect for both your connection and your professional environment. In love and work alike, a foundation built with patience and care is one that endures. /s/ Dr. Love
Doctor Love,
Why do men struggle so much with picking up after themselves? I’m not a neat freak, but I do like a tidy house. However, this seems impossible with my boyfriend around. He is a walking mess. I’ve talked to him about it, and he improves for a couple of days, but then it’s back to dishes everywhere and clothes left on the floor. I love him, but I don’t know if I can live with someone like this. What should I do? /s/ Just Clean Up
Dear Just Clean Up,
Ah, the age-old struggle between order and chaos. Sometimes, our differences in habits reflect deeper patterns, not a lack of love. You’ve expressed your feelings, yet if the message doesn’t quite resonate, it may be time to try a new approach.
Instead of focusing on the mess, invite him to share your vision of home—a place of harmony and peace. Make it less about his habits and more about creating a shared space that brings both of you joy. Consider compromises that might lighten the load without dampening either of your spirits. And remember, balance in love is not about fixing each other but learning to walk side by side, even through the occasional mess. /s/ Dr. Love
Doctor Love is the islands, and possibly the world’s greatest authority on just about everything. The Doctor answers questions concerning any subject except religion or politics. Persons needing additional assistance or counseling should contact Family Services Division at 227-7541. The opinions herein are not necessarily of The San Pedro Sun. Write Doctor Love at PO Box 51, San Pedro Town, Belize, or email: [email protected]
