Hey Doctor Love
I’ve been with my significant other for almost ten years now. I’m 29, and my partner is 25. To make a long story short, my family disapproves of him, which has created a tremendous amount of stress that I need to address. However, I’m unsure how to approach the situation. I don’t like confrontation and struggle with communication, often leading to terrible arguments whenever I try to discuss this with my parents. I would like for them to sit down with him and talk about any concerns they might have. Do you have any advice on how to make this happen? /s/ Healthy Relationship
Dear Healthy Relationship,
Navigating family approval can be a tricky road, especially when communication struggles make things tense. One approach is to ease into the conversation in smaller steps. First, express to your parents how important their support is to you—not about choosing sides but about finding a way to coexist peacefully. You could let them know you’d like a calm, open conversation where everyone can air their concerns without judgment. If they agree, set a comfortable time for them to meet your partner, maybe over a low-key family meal or coffee, where the focus isn’t just on the discussion. Encourage them to share their thoughts and listen, reminding everyone to keep things constructive. Sometimes when families see the effort both partners make, their hearts begin to soften. And remember, staying calm yourself can help set a peaceful tone, even if things get tough. /s/ Dr. Love
Dear Doctor Love,
I have two daughters who are very different from each other, night and day. They are only a year apart—12 and 13—but they seem to have nothing in common. As they’ve grown older, their differing attitudes have created a lot of tension in our home. They constantly argue about everything, from what to have for lunch to who is responsible for certain chores. There doesn’t seem to be a moment of peace, and it’s really starting to affect my husband and me. We try to encourage them to lead their own lives, but no matter what, they always seem to end up bickering over the smallest things. How can I go about dealing with this situation? /s/ Just want a little peace
Dear Just Want a Little Peace,
It sounds like you’re dealing with the classic sibling rivalry—two unique personalities constantly clashing! At this age, kids often struggle to appreciate each other’s differences, so it might help to set some clear family ground rules around respect and communication. Let them know that disagreements are natural, but bickering has limits. Consider giving each daughter specific “alone time” with you or your husband to reinforce their individuality, and see if you can find shared activities where they can bond in smaller ways. If they have a common project or goal, like cooking a meal or planning a family outing, they may find themselves working together. Praise them when they do get along, even in small moments. With patience, they’ll eventually start to see the value in their differences—and hopefully bring a bit more peace to your home. /s/ Dr. Love
Dear Doctor Love,
We moved to San Pedro about eight months ago. Back in the U.S., we always chose a charity to support during the holidays. As the holiday season approaches, we want to continue that tradition. Is there a specific charity we should consider? We prefer one that is underfunded, as we really want to make a difference. /s/ Season of giving
Dear Season of Giving,
What a wonderful way to celebrate the holidays! San Pedro has several organizations that would love your support, particularly those focusing on underfunded causes. Consider looking into local groups supporting children, like Hope Haven, ACES, or environmental efforts aimed at preserving the island’s mangroves and reefs. You may also find smaller community initiatives that support educational resources for underprivileged families or help fund school supplies. Reaching out to facebook Groups on the Island or asking around could reveal causes in urgent need. Supporting one of these can make a meaningful impact and show your new community how much you care. /s/ Dr. Love
Doctor Love is the islands, and possibly the world’s greatest authority on just about everything. The Doctor answers questions concerning any subject except religion or politics. Persons needing additional assistance or counseling should contact Family Services Division at 227-7541. The opinions herein are not necessarily of The San Pedro Sun. Write Doctor Love at PO Box 51, San Pedro Town, Belize, or email: [email protected]
