Doctor Love: Jealousy and Relationships
Sunday, August 10th, 2014
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Dear Doctor Love,
I met my husband when we were in high school. We have now been together for ten years. I have never given him a reason to be jealous and yet he is always accusing me of being interested in every man I meet. When we first got married it was kind of flattering to think someone cared so much for me. Now I know his kind of jealousy is a sickness. Even though we have two children I am considering leaving the marriage. The kids will take it hard but I know he will never stop with his accusations and I can’t take any more. What should I do?
/s/ I’m Done
If you just suddenly leave he will be certain that he was right all along. Instead of just leaving you need to make some plans. First, you should try to get some counseling for the both of you or you alone if he will not go. As part of the therapy you can plan a legal separation and avoid a lot of drama.
Dear Doctor Love,
I am sixteen years old and there is this guy that I like. We have done a lot of things together like dancing and flirting. We talk on the phone several times a week. I keep getting all of these signals from him but nothing ever comes of it. When I try to talk to him about serious things he likes to avoid talking about them. When I asked him about it he says he is not ready for a new relationship and he wants to just be friends. I realize that he is probably just leading me on. I still like him a lot anyway and I would like to be involved with him as in boyfriend/girlfriend. How can I do it?
/s/ Not Giving Up
Go to page 1 of the book on feminine romantic tactics. This must be written on the first page. Nothing drives a man wilder than indifference. You have to ignore him and avoid him to make him know what he is missing. It also works to find out if he is leading you on.
Start by never calling him or initiating contact. If he calls, talk for a few minutes and invent a reason to get off the phone. If he texts, take a long time before answering. If he does not try harder, he was leading you on. If he starts contacting you, you have him hooked.
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