Doctor Love: Lonely Girl and Unsigned

Sunday, March 13th, 2016

Dr-LoveDear Doctor Love,
I am a female in my mid-twenties and I have a lot of friends. We meet a lot of times for drinks and we party nearly every weekend. Until lately it has never bothered me that I am not married and that I don’t have a steady boyfriend. Some of my friends are married and some are not but all of them have someone that is special to them. I am the only one who does not have a special someone. I like guys but I am too shy to approach one without a reason. This need to find a partner is really strong. I am realistic so I am not necessarily looking for the ideal man. I just want someone who thinks I am special, too. How do I go about finding somebody?
/s/ Lonely Girl

Dear Lonely,
The secret to talking to guys is questions. Ask them questions because they are probably just as shy as you. Most guys are even more clueless about how to talk to a woman than the woman is. This is because the man is usually expected to make the approach. If you him a question it will break the ice and get the conversation going without him even realizing you are making an approach. As soon as he answers the question ask him something about himself and you will find it hard to shut him up. All you have to do is nod and smile and he will think you are a great conversationalist.

Dear Doctor Love,
I have a friend who used to like me. One day she was really mean and nasty. She swore at me and called me names. I got very mad and started calling her names, too. When I got in her face she said she was just having a bad day and gave me a fake apology which I did not believe for a minute. I know I should not lose my temper like that but after I yelled at her I felt really great. It seems like I can’t say what I feel without being really mean. I don’t want to be like that. What should I do?
/s/ Unsigned

Dear Unsigned,
It is great that you know you have a problem handling your anger. That is the hardest step to take. Check on the internet for different strategies on how to control your anger. In Belize City there are also anger management courses sponsored by the government’s Ministry of Human Development.

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